The path to permanent weight loss begins with self-acceptance.
— Catherine L. Taylor
Self-acceptance paves the way for lasting weight loss. Change begins with an acceptance of where you’re at in the moment. As spiritual teacher Louise Hay says, “The point of power is always in the moment.” In each moment the opportunity for change exists.
Acceptance doesn’t mean resignation or defeat. It means accepting how life currently is, not how you would like it to be.
Acceptance is dealing with life on life’s terms.
One cannot change what one cannot accept.
You have to accept where you’re at before you can really affect change.
When you come to a place of acceptance, you’re no longer struggling with yourself, your body, food, or your reality. You understand that you’ll never arrive at a magical place where you’re a finished product and your life, your body, or your eating is perfect. You accept that your life is a process and as long as you’re alive, you’ll be a work in progress. This allows you to enjoy the journey, not just the destination. After all, it’s who you become along the journey that’s most important.
You understand that all you need to do each day is fully show up for your life, do your best, and let the rest go. Acceptance allows for change and your weight loss to gradually unfold, instead of trying to force it to fit your timetable and preconceived notions of what it should look like. Acceptance allows for good days, bad days, and days in between. It doesn’t expect perfection; it just wants your participation.
Self-acceptance doesn’t mean you stop striving to be better. It just means your motives for change are different. Self-acceptance is a radical act. It says, “I’m ok with who I am, warts and all. If I seek to improve myself, it’s because I want to fulfill my potential and evolve as a human being, not because I’m defective or need to gain anyone’s love and approval.”
Change from this place feels less threatening because it’s something you truly want with your heart; it’s not coming from a place of fear, self-judgment and “should.” In other words, it’s coming from a place of allowing and receptivity, instead of something you’re forcing yourself to do.
When you’re in a state of allowing and receptivity, you’re aligned with your true Source nature, and there is a sense of effortlessness and flow because you’re not desperately struggling against the current of life. Life is carrying you.
Self-acceptance of your whole being, your weaknesses, as well as your strengths, is what makes you whole. When you’re whole, you’re a true force to be reckoned with, for you’re no longer at war with yourself. You are free to be your true self and freely share your gifts with the world.
May the flow be with you.
What qualities in yourself do you find unacceptable?
Has beating yourself up and criticizing yourself about these helped or hindered you?
Are you holding yourself to unrealistic standards of perfection? Or an unrealistic timetable?
What if you softened your stance towards yourself and practiced encouraging and loving yourself?
I am a mixed bag of strengths and weaknesses, like everybody else.
I am fallible, imperfect, and a whole lot of fabulous all wrapped up in the same package.
My flaws and quirks are what make me uniquely human.
I allow myself to unfold and flow according to the rhythms of life.
I show up for my life each day and participate to the best of my ability.
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