Our attitude shapes our behavior towards food. We eat how we are. Our attitude becomes our eatitude.
—Catherine L. Taylor
How you do food is how you do life!®
Our attitudes about life form our beliefs and responses around food. We eat how we are. We also approach our weight loss with specific attitudes that are shaped by our greater attitudes and responses towards life.
For many of us, our attitudes are what are holding us back from achieving the success we have been looking for.
Here are some attitudes that are often roadblocks to success:
The Diva – Life is a banquet and you want to sample it all. Do you feel entitled to eat all you want, when you want? Do you feel food is your just reward to a hard day’s work, a good workout, a celebration, or any day or situation that’s not stellar?
Solution: Do you deserve to have a weight problem, heart disease, high cholesterol, or joint problems? There are consequences for your behavior. Are you willing to pay the price? You’re not special and exempt from them.
Oh Dear Diva! You can have it all — just not all the time and not in the amounts you want. You need to learn moderation in all things. Find other things to reward yourself with besides food.
The Dreamer – Do you think if you just hope and wish enough and maybe say some affirmations, do a vision board, or read the right diet book your weight will start to magically melt away? Dream on!
Solution: A goal is a dream with a deadline. Begin to set small daily, weekly, and monthly goals. Get it down in writing and begin to make it happen! Action is the key. Affirmations and vision boards are tools, not cure-alls. Please stop talking and dreaming about it and get willing to do something about it. A plan will make it happen!
The Procrastinator – Do you keep telling yourself that one day you will finally get it together, lose the weight, and then your real life will begin? Do you tell yourself that once you lose weight all your other life problems will be solved? Are you tired of waiting?
Solution: Break down your goal into small, manageable actions. Start now. One day at a time. Soon you’ll be there. Enjoy the process and the journey; stop focusing on the end goal, which may overwhelm you.
Ask: what can I do today? And then do it! Your small, daily actions will lead you to the greater place you want to be.
The Quitter – Do you start out being really enthused at things, then hit a bump or obstacle and quit in despair, feeling that you’re a total failure? Is your life littered with a bunch of unfinished projects because you never finish what you start? Start…stop. Start…stop. Start…stop.
Solution: Mistakes are what you do, not who you are. Stop taking mistakes so personally. They aren’t about you. Commit to seeing the process through. As you stay the course, you will gain the confidence and mastery that you’re seeking.
You will finally realize that you do have what it takes to be a winner. You just never gave yourself enough of a chance, because you quit too soon!
The Perfectionist – Do you think you must be perfect and eat perfectly? Do you expect to rigidly follow a routine or diet to the letter, no matter what? Do you define yourself by a number on the scale? Do you think that if you make a mistake that means you’ve blown it, you’re a failure and you might as well be bad…real bad…as in binge?
Solution: Accept that you’re never going to be perfect or eat perfectly all the time. Do what you can each day, and then let the rest go. Learn to soften your standards. Go easy on yourself and others.
It’s not all black and white. Establish a gray zone in your life. Get happy with good enough! All your efforts will begin to add up if you stop demanding perfection as the only acceptable standard.
Do you see yourself in any of these attitudes and eating behaviors? Stay out of the problem and stay focused on the solution. Soon, you will be where you want to be!
Inspirational Quotes and Thoughts by Catherine L. Taylor
- Needing others’ approval is a sure sign you don’t have your own.
- If we close ourselves off from pain, we also close ourselves off from joy. We have to stay open to it all.
- An open person is a vulnerable person. Love cannot enter where there is rigidity, close-mindedness, and judgment.
- The greatest love affair is the one you have with yourself.
- Love yourself, and then you can love the world.
Moderation in all things will bring me the balance that I am seeking.
I practice self-acceptance. Self-acceptance means I accept who I am and where I’m at. From this place I can improve.
I make friends with discomfort by taking small steps outside my comfort zone.
I am moving in the direction of my dreams.
Read more about affirmations here.
God or Higher Power grant me the willingness to eat what I need, instead of eating what I want, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Are you having trouble integrating healthy new behaviors into your life? Is emotional eating keeping you from losing weight and living the life you want?
If so, you may be a candidate for coaching. Coaching can make the difference between success and failure.
I have found that people who struggle with food and emotional eating are released from that prison once they learn the skills of mindful awareness and mindful eating, emotional self-nurturing, developing a spiritual or meditation practice, and learning to set appropriate limits and goals.
This turns off the urge to overeat and engage in other compulsive behaviors. When you feel better, you eat better! I have walked this path myself, and it has led me to peace and freedom.
The goal of my coaching is to create a lighter, balanced, healthier, nourishing and joy-filled life. You will begin to see results in all areas of your life because How You do Food is How You do Life!®
I coach and mentor people in the areas of: permanent weight loss, food addiction, compulsive, emotional overeating, binge eating recovery, creative self expression, spiritual direction, mindfulness, meditation, self care and stress management, self esteem and body image issues.
Note: My work is spiritually focused, not religious, and fits with any belief system you may have, even agnostic. My work assumes that you have all the wisdom and answers you need inside of you.
What you call this place — God, intuition, Higher Power, inner wisdom, or True Self — is up to you. I am simply a guide bringing you back to the truths that are already inside of you.
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