Man’s greatest ability is the freedom to choose his own attitude. ~ Victor Frankl
Why do some people embrace weight loss as a challenge and a learning experience, while others feel defeated and hopeless before they barely even start? It’s all in the attitude!
Research shows that survivor personalities – people who make the most out of hardship and obstacles – possess certain traits and attitudes. These attitudes can be learned and developed.
Permanent weight loss and the life changes that go with it, requires that one develop a flexibility of spirit, an openness to change, and an ability to reinvent one’s self over and over again. To become a weight loss master is to develop the traits of a survivor personality!
Weight is something that can be managed but never cured. Overcoming major obstacles (such as weight loss) can develop strengths that we never knew we possessed. It can even lead us to greatness.
Life’s hardships, obstacles, and challenges contain life’s greatest lessons. Every experience in life holds a gift. It’s all in how you perceive it.
Stress management, coping techniques, and developing healthier attitudes towards life and change play a crucial role in living with and recovering from compulsive overeating, chronic dieting, and eating disorders. People who are proactive and who take responsibility for their issues and the state of their lives are more successful than those who don’t.
Many people are looking for a quick fix and there is none. It is much easier to focus on the latest weight loss diet, a drug, or look to a doctor to fix us than to look within ourselves for certain solutions and to effect lifestyle changes that lead to permanent weight loss. It’s even easier to blame our problems on something outside of ourselves, that way we bear no responsibility for creating the problem, and then we take no responsibility for solving it.
Psychologist Al Siebert has extensively studied survivors of all kinds of hardship and written several books on “The Survivor Personality.” His research shows that survivors have a complexity of character, a union of many opposites, which he calls biphasic traits.
They are serious and playful, logical and intuitive, introspective and outgoing. In other words, they have a flexibility of spirit, with a wider array of resources that they are able to draw on. This cluster of traits is known as resiliency.
Some of these traits are:
- Curiosity – these people ask questions.
- Creativity – they find new solutions to problems.
- Solution oriented – they stay focused on a solution.
- They don’t wallow in self-pity.
- Self-reliant – they don’t look to others for validation and approval.
- Synergy – they want things to work out for themselves and others.
- Optimism. When bad things happen they look for the good in it.
- High self esteem and self love. They have self-confidence.
- They are flexible.
How does one develop a survivor personality?
Thriving depends on how well you can adapt and adjust to a changing world. People who have rigid attitudes (including many dieters and compulsive eaters) have a hard time coping with change.
How can you become a better thriver?
Look for the gift and or lesson in your circumstance. There is truth in the saying every cloud has a silver lining. Choose to view your weight loss journey as a journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Focus on being grateful for what you have – build on that – and stay present and focused on the solution, not the problem. Don’t be so goal focused that you don’t enjoy the journey.
Take each day as it comes and allow room for setbacks and mistakes. Celebrate and reward yourself for all that you do right and enjoy the small successes along the way. Don’t forget to have fun!
Besides giving you a slimmer and healthier body, losing weight can teach you many valuable life skills. What are some of the gifts of permanent weight loss?
- Losing weight can help you develop qualities of perseverance, self-awareness, creativity, self-assertion, discipline, compassion, and courage.
- It can teach you healthier ways of living, better time management, how to manage your stress, and new ways of setting and achieving goals. It can teach you to be a creative problem solver.
If you can master your weight problem, you can master any obstacle in life. The skills of weight mastery and life mastery are one and the same. How you do food is how you do life!
Do you need to learn to be more resilient? Life coaching can teach you the skills to master your weight problem and your life! Contact me for a free consultation!
Inspirational Quotes and Thoughts by Catherine L. Taylor
- What challenges or lessons do you need to learn to overcome your weight problem? Can you view these as opportunities for growth?
- To overcome any problem, ask your Higher Power or inner wisdom to reveal the solution. Be open to receiving the answer. Be willing to put the answer into action.
- View mistakes as learning opportunities. When things go wrong, ask, “What’s the lesson in this?” “What do I need to do differently next time?”
- The rigid break. The flexible bend and sway with the winds of life. Are you swaying with the wind? Or are you railing against it with closed fists?
I am learning to sway with the wind.
I am far more capable of change than I give myself credit for.
I am open to asking and receiving answers from a Higher Power.
Solutions appear when I’m ready and open to receiving them.
Today, I get off my pity pot and go make something happen!
Read more about affirmations here.
Are you needing to learn how to be more resilient, so that you can integrate healthy new behaviors into your life? Is emotional eating keeping you from losing weight and living the life you want?
If so, you may be a candidate for coaching. Coaching can make the difference between success and failure.
I have found that people who struggle with food and emotional eating are released from that prison once they learn the skills of mindful awareness and mindful eating, emotional self-nurturing, developing a spiritual or meditation practice, and learning to set appropriate limits and goals.
This turns off the urge to overeat and engage in other compulsive behaviors. When you feel better, you eat better! I have walked this path myself, and it has led me to peace and freedom.
The goal of my coaching is to create a lighter, balanced, healthier, nourishing and joy-filled life. You will begin to see results in all areas of your life because How You do Food is How You do Life!®
I coach and mentor people in the areas of: permanent weight loss, food addiction, compulsive, emotional overeating, binge eating recovery, creative self expression, spiritual direction, mindfulness, meditation, self care and stress management, self esteem and body image issues.
Note: My work is spiritually focused, not religious, and fits with any belief system you may have, even agnostic. My work assumes that you have all the wisdom and answers you need inside of you.
What you call this place — God, intuition, Higher Power, inner wisdom, or True Self — is up to you. I am simply a guide bringing you back to the truths that are already inside of you.
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