To avoid situations in which you might make mistakes may be the biggest mistake of all.
— Peter McWilliams
Most of us don’t like to make mistakes. Yet mistakes are how we learn. If we are perfectionists or we were heavily criticized as children for making mistakes, we may be afraid to take risks or avoid situations where we might make mistakes, for fear of ridicule or judgment, including our own.
We cannot grow and develop into our full potential without making mistakes. It’s through exploration and trial and error that we get to know what we like and who we are as people. We need to stop thinking that mistakes are bad, something we do because we are flawed or stupid. Mistakes are what we do, not who we are.
We need to remember that as children we had to fall many times before we learned to walk. What if we had never tried to get back up again after that first fall? We’d now be in a wheelchair claiming we can’t walk! Now, as adults, some of us are stuck in a sort of emotional wheelchair because our fear of making mistakes keeps us paralyzed and stuck in a life that’s not working.
The most successful people are often the people who have made the most mistakes. They have taken many risks and made some huge screwups in their lives, but have taken those and learned from them. Thomas Edison was said to have made over 1,000 attempts until he made the light bulb.
To get out of that emotional wheelchair, we need to make it OK to make mistakes as we learn a new way. Letting go of old patterns of thinking, learning new ways of being, and developing healthier habits takes time, trial and error, and patience, as we will sometimes fall back into our old ways. Most of us do the two step: two steps forward, one back before we move forward onto steadier ground.
Mistakes are simply feedback. They offer feedback as to what’s not working so that we may alter our course. Instead of beating ourselves up over them, we can use them as learning tools. Each time we make a mistake, we need to ask ourselves: “What’s the lesson in this?” “What might I do differently next time?”
When attempting change, it’s important not to take ourselves too seriously. Being able to laugh at our foibles makes it less painful and easier to take risks and fail forward. We need to be gentle with ourselves and feed ourselves encouraging words as we take baby steps in a new direction. Beating ourselves up just leads to frustration, overwhelm, giving up in desperation and right back into our overeating and/or dieting behavior.
We need to give ourselves pats on the back for everything we do right. All success starts with humble beginnings. We need to learn to be patient with ourselves and keep our expectations realistic. We set small, doable goals and track our progress. As we do, we feel more motivated to continue. And before we know it, we find ourselves walking into a brand new life.
Am I allowing myself to make mistakes? Or am I playing it too safe and small in my life? What would happen if I lightened up a bit?
- We do not learn from experience…we learn from reflecting on experience.
― John Dewey
- The successful man will profit from his mistakes and try again in a different way.
― Dale Carnegie
- Many times what we perceive as an error or failure is actually a gift. And eventually we find that lessons learned from that discouraging experience prove to be of great worth.
― Richelle E. Goodrich, Smile Anyway: Quotes, Verse, & Grumblings for Every Day of the Year
- I am who I am today because of the mistakes I made yesterday.
― The Prolific Penman
- People screw up. People screw up a lot. We allow our own selfishness to overpower us at times. It happens. But you can’t allow that to tear you down. You can’t keep dwelling on your past choices, and your past actions, or else you’ll never learn from them.
― Nicole Sobon, Deprogrammed
Mistakes are how I learn and grow.
Mistakes are what I do, not who I am.
I am willing to take risks and make mistakes to grow beyond who I am now.
I see mistakes as simple feedback and alter my course accordingly.
I am gentle with myself when I make mistakes.
Each mistake I make brings me closer to success.
Mistakes mean I am growing, risking and evolving.
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