Refusing to ask for help when you need it is refusing someone the chance to be helpful.
Most of us are very comfortable in the role of helping others. Yet when it comes to asking for help it is another story; our pride can get in the way; we might be afraid of being judged as weak; or we’re afraid we will be seen as stupid.
The truth is everyone needs help now and then and we’re no different. We are all interdependent and we all switch roles from time to time. Sometimes we’re the helper and sometimes we are the one needing help. If none of us needed help, no one would get to play the role of helper.
America has always been the land of the “do it yourselfer.” We pride ourselves on our independent natures, and 83% of the people who try to diet each year attempt to do it on their own. Yet only a tiny percentage of those people actually succeed.
What does that tell us?
Most of us need help and support in order to be successful.
A study led by researchers at Duke University Medical Center and published in The Journal of The American Medical Association in March 2008, showed that the people who lost the most weight and successfully kept it off have had regular contact with a weight loss counselor.
If you have repeatedly lost weight and regained it or have failed to lose it in the first place, it may be time to admit defeat and get some help and learn some new ways of coping with life. Coaching can make the difference between success and failure. The reason it works is it provides support, encouragement, structure, and accountability while teaching you some new life skills and coping tools. Many of us when left to our own devices soon lapse back into old unhealthy behaviors.
Coaching helps you to navigate the change process and stay the course so that you can integrate new behaviors that will support you for a lifetime. Clients say this is the best money they have ever spent on themselves, especially after considering the costs of failed diets, foods, weight loss programs, gyms, and therapists.
It takes real humility to ask for help. Our ego loves to pretend it can do everything on its own, but that isn’t true. If we have a vested interest in appearing superior or having it all together, asking for help will be very hard for us. We have to make ourselves vulnerable and open to receive the help of others, and that also includes the help of a Higher Power. Many of us view reliance on anything other than our own intelligence and self-will a sign of weakness.
There is a divine power or intelligence in the universe that can work for us and through us. Its help is always available to us, but we need to ask for that help in prayer and/or meditation. When we do, our burdens are lessened and we find answers to the problems that have eluded us. Often, these answers appear in unlikely places and sometimes come in the form of other people – what they say or what they do. We need to remain humble and open so that we can seek and find the answers.
Help is a prayer, question, email or phone call away. Am I regularly asking for help from a Higher Power or from others? Or do I continue to be lost in the woods, repeating the same mistakes and refusing to ask for help and direction?
I enjoy helping others. I allow others the same pleasure when helping me. Then the circle is complete. Who do I need to ask for help from today?
Feast for the Eyes – Bright Leaves – Photo by Catherine L. Taylor
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The holidays are a difficult time for overeaters. Not only is tempting and unhealthy food found in abundance, it’s often served alongside heaping portions of angst due to unresolved family issues, sad memories, or ongoing conflicts. This can be a recipe for holiday disaster and overeating frenzies, leaving us with unwanted pounds, food hangovers, shredded self-esteem and a heaping bucket of guilt that we bring forward into the New Year.
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- Asking is the beginning of receiving. Make sure you don’t go to the ocean with a teaspoon. At least take a bucket so the kids won’t laugh at you.
—Jim Rohn, an American entrepreneur, author and motivational speaker
- Needing help doesn’t make you weak, in fact quite the opposite. It makes you strong, smart, resourceful, and realistic. Being prideful is a weakness. Asking for help when you know you’re in over your head is STRENGTH. Don’t ever forget that!
- It’s not the load that breaks you down; it’s the way you carry it.
- If you’re carrying more than you can handle today, choose to let some of it go by letting someone else in. You may feel vulnerable asking for help, but wouldn’t the world be a better place if we all learned to depend on each other?
— Lori Deschene, founder of Tiny Buddha
Help is all around me. I humble and open myself to receive divine direction.
I am strong enough to ask for help.
I am divinely supported. That support comes to me by asking for help.
Daily, I still myself and listen to my inner wisdom for guidance.
I ask to have my urges to overeat or binge removed.
I ask for the willingness to practice and learn healthier behaviors.
I ask for the willingness to allow others to guide and support me.
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Is emotional eating keeping you from losing weight and living the life you want? Are you ready to get off the diet rollercoaster and master your weight and your life?
If so, you may be a candidate for coaching. Coaching can make the difference between success and failure.
I have found that people who struggle with food and emotional eating are released from that prison once they learn the skills of mindful awareness and mindful eating, emotional self-nurturing, developing a spiritual or meditation practice, and learning to set appropriate limits and goals.
This turns off the urge to overeat and engage in other compulsive behaviors. When you feel better, you eat better! I have walked this path myself, and it has led me to peace and freedom.
The goal of my coaching is to create a lighter, balanced, healthier, nourishing and joy-filled life. You will begin to see results in all areas of your life because How You do Food is How You do Life!®
I coach and mentor people in the areas of: permanent weight loss, food addiction, compulsive, emotional overeating, binge eating recovery, creative self expression, spiritual direction, mindfulness, meditation, self care and stress management, self esteem and body image issues.
Note: My work is spiritually focused, not religious, and fits with any belief system you may have, even agnostic. My work assumes that you have all the wisdom and answers you need inside of you.
What you call this place — God, intuition, Higher Power, inner wisdom, or true self — is up to you. I am simply a guide bringing you back to the truths that are already inside of you.
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Catherine L. Taylor
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