It is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes happiness.
In working with overeaters, the biggest thing that stands out for me is that most of my clients are not really happy with themselves or their lives. This is not to imply that all overweight people are unhappy, just the majority who use my services.
Many overeaters believe that happiness is a state that will arrive one day when they lose the weight and they become free from food and weight concerns. That certainly can bring more happiness, but happiness is a choice and that choice can be made right now.
All humans want to be happy and we are lucky to live in an age where there is a wealth of scientific studies that show us how we can be happier. Happiness is an attitude and a way of perceiving life; it’s not a situation or dependent on having things like money, love, or being thin.
We often reach for food or other externals to make us happy, but they only provide a quick fix and we soon find ourselves reaching for more. True happiness comes from being at peace in the moment, with an acceptance of what is. It is a state of inner fullness or contentment. When we are in this place, we need nothing external to change or to fill us up.
Some of us feel we aren’t deserving of happiness. There is nothing we have to do to be worthy of happiness. The truth is that if we’re alive, we are worthy. We are all children of Spirit. We don’t have to do anything to prove we are worthy of life’s bounty. It is our birthright to enjoy what life has to offer. Our happiness has always been with us. All we have to do is to make up our minds that we are going to be happy no matter what and practice cultivating an appreciation for all the good in our lives.
Happy people know how to enjoy themselves. Have you ever met an ungrateful, self-absorbed, negative person who was happy? Happy people are grateful for the good in their lives. Because they focus on the good, they attract more of the good. This isn’t to say that their lives are problem free, but even when they encounter a problem, they tend to look for the lesson or solution in it, instead of wallowing, complaining, and feeling like a victim.
Happy people are optimistic and hopeful. Because of this, they have more confidence. They have the feeling that they can handle whatever life throws at them, and this allows them to take more risks and put themselves out in the world to receive even more opportunities. They like themselves and because of that, other people enjoy being around them. They tend to be outgoing, extroverted, and social.
Ok. So you might be thinking right now, “Great. I’m none of these things. I’ll never be happy!” Well, I’m here to tell you that’s not true!
I used to be an unhappy person who was ungrateful, self-absorbed, introverted, shy, and often very negative!
How did I change?
By practicing being more outgoing, keeping a gratitude journal, becoming more mindful, noticing the beauty all around me, affirming my good, feeding my spirit, and getting out of my self through acts of service to others.
Now, there are many studies in positive psychology that actually prove that doing any or all of these things do work to bring more happiness to people’s lives.
I’m still an introvert, but if you met me you’d never know it. And it’s not an act; it’s become my nature. I call myself a gregarious introvert. I still love my alone time; but I no longer isolate and hide out from life.
The first thing I say when I open my eyes in the morning is thank-you! I’m so grateful to have been given another day to enjoy life.
I wish you all happiness and I know it’s within your reach. It does take some work and concentrated effort but isn’t your happiness worth that?
We can choose to be happy right now or we can suffer along with our negativity. It’s ironic, but when we choose happiness, we often find we have more energy to take better care of ourselves. We feel more motivated to lose weight and actually enjoy the journey, not just the end goal.
So c’mon, c’mon! Get happy! And if you’re already happy and you know it, well, get up and clap your hands and dance!
Have a Happy Fourth of July!
How We Choose To Be Happy by Rick Foster and Greg Hicks
Authentic Happiness by Martin Seligman, M.D.
Instant Health and Happiness Boosters by M. J. Ryan
The 100 Simple Secrets of Happy People by David Niven
Quotes and Reflective Questions
- Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.
- In what ways do I look for happiness outside of myself?
- Am I afraid of happiness? What would I lose if I was to choose happiness over misery? How would my life change?
- What conditions must be met in my life before I will be happy? I will be happy when ________.
- Do I expect others to make me happy?
- Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be. ~Abraham Lincoln
- Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. ~Mahatma Gandhi
I am responsible for my happiness.
I can choose happiness at any moment.
I am the source of my own smiles.
I am open to my good.
I affirm what’s right in my world.
I cultivate an appreciation for the goodness I have been blessed with.
Is emotional eating keeping you from losing weight and living the life you want? Are you ready to master your weight and your life?
If so, you may be a candidate for coaching. Coaching can make the difference between success and failure.
I have found that people who struggle with food and emotional eating are released from that prison once they learn the skills of mindful awareness and mindful eating, emotional self-nurturing, developing a spiritual or meditation practice, and learning to set appropriate limits and goals.
This turns off the urge to overeat and engage in other compulsive behaviors. When you feel better, you eat better! I have walked this path myself, and it has led me to peace and freedom.
The goal of my coaching is to create a lighter, balanced, healthier, nourishing and joy-filled life. You will begin to see results in all areas of your life because How You do Food is How You do Life!®
I coach and mentor people in the areas of: permanent weight loss, food addiction, compulsive, emotional overeating, binge eating recovery, creative self expression, spiritual direction, mindfulness, meditation, self care and stress management, self esteem and body image issues.
Note: My work is spiritually focused, not religious, and fits with any belief system you may have, even agnostic. My work assumes that you have all the wisdom and answers you need inside of you.
What you call this place — God, intuition, Higher Power, inner wisdom, or true self — is up to you. I am simply a guide bringing you back to the truths that are already inside of you.
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Catherine L. Taylor
How You do Food is How You do Life!®
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