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Feelings Aren't Facts
March 25, 2014

Feelings aren't facts. ~Anonymous

How often have we assumed we are bad, unworthy or defective because we have felt angry, ashamed or guilty over something? How often have we endlessly indulged our feelings of self-pity and eaten over them? Have we ever let our negative feelings spoil a whole week, month, or even a year? How many times have we not exercised, eaten well or taken care of ourselves because we just didn’t feel like it?

Feelings aren’t facts. They are temporary and will pass. Feelings don’t have the power to define us unless we let them. Feelings are a natural and necessary part of being human, and they do need to be acknowledged, but we need not let them run the entire show. Just because we feel something doesn’t mean it’s true. We react to the thoughts we think and many of these thoughts are false, irrational and based on past programming. Sometimes it’s best to act in spite of our feelings.

Little children often run amok with their unbridled emotions. Part of emotional maturity is the ability to gain mastery and some detachment over our feelings. We acknowledge them, but they don’t run our lives and influence our whole decision making process. We balance them with inquiry, logic and reason. We don’t need to act on our feelings, unless it’s safe and appropriate to do so. We also need to practice discernment over when it’s appropriate to express them to others and when it’s best to keep them to ourselves.

If we find ourselves in a work or social situation and we’re feeling emotional, we can practice detaching from our feelings until it’s safe to process them. We may need to come home and take a shower or a brisk walk. We can write in a journal or beat a pillow or call a friend to express our feelings. We can meditate, breathe, chant or pray and ask God to relieve us of the feeling. If we eat over our feelings, they never get worked through and we begin to feel dead and heavy inside. Sooner or later unexpressed feelings do get acted out in the form of temper tantrums, meltdowns, depression, anxiety, self-sabotage, illness, substance abuse and/or overeating episodes.

If we’re feeling depressed, it’s important to engage in some nurturing self-care that can make us feel better. If the depression goes on for too long, it’s important to get help and not give in to the feelings of wanting to eat and isolate from life. This can make it worse. In spite of our feelings, we may need to force ourselves to take a walk, engage in self-care, and interact with others, which will often make us feel better.

If we feel like bingeing or overeating, we can acknowledge the feeling, then pause and distract ourselves with something else. The feeling will soon pass. We need to learn to ride out our urges as they’re temporary. They will usually pass in around twenty minutes. We can write out a list of things we can do to distract ourselves and then do them when the urge arises. If we’re feeling like we don’t want to exercise, the best thing is to not engage in an endless, internal dialogue about it, just do it anyway. We can tell ourselves that we will do it for 10 minutes and usually once we have started, we can keep going for a longer time.

As we learn to not act on our feelings and give in to our urges around overeating, we begin to feel more confident and empowered. We see that we do have far more control than we ever gave ourselves credit for. We had simply surrendered to our feelings.

I am learning to pause and delay gratification and think about the consequences of my actions. A life of acting on my feelings and urges is a life out of control.

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  • Feelings come and go like clouds in a windy sky. Conscious breathing is my anchor.
    ―Thích Nhất Hạnh
  • The best way out is always through.
    ―Robert Frost
  • You learned to run from what you feel, and that's why you have nightmares. To deny is to invite madness. To accept is to control.
    ―Megan Chance, The Spiritualist
  • Don't allow your mind to tell your heart what to do. The mind gives up easily.
    ―Paulo Coelho
  • You can't make yourself feel positive, but you can choose how to act, and if you choose right, it builds your confidence.
    ―Julien Smith, The Flinch

Weekly Affirmations

I pause and think before I act on my feelings.

I can heal what I allow myself to feel.

I am willing to feel the full range of my emotions.

I am willing to practice better self-care and coping tools.

I am open to what my feelings are telling me.

I am capable of making better choices, in spite of what my feelings may be telling me.

I am defined by my actions, not my feelings.

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