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Loving-Kindness - Issue #56
February 04, 2014
You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.
Starting when we are very young children, we are often taught to put others needs before our own. We are given the impression that it is selfish or conceited to love ourselves. As we grow up, we become so trained in making others feel better or tending to their needs that there is often nothing left for us. This can leaves us feeling resentful and starved for attention, comfort and nurturing. Of course, we turn to food and overeating to try to fill these needs.
But food can never truly satisfy these needs. We may also find ourselves turning to others to try to get care and attention, when what we are truly starving for is our own attention, concern and love. Unless we make ourselves the center of our world, nothing much will change for us. We cannot continue to feed ourselves scraps and think we are going to be happy, peaceful and satisfied people. We must set ourselves a place at the banquet table of life.
It all starts with feeling worthy and deserving of our own love. Many of us feel unworthy. The best way to change this is to act as if we are worthy and soon we will feel ourselves to be. We must practice acting on our own behalf and affirming our own goodness. And as we do, we become so.
We can start each day by looking in the mirror and repeating the following phrases:
May I be happy. May I be well. May I feel worthy. May I be filled with lovingkindess. May I be free of self-criticism, shame, and self-loathing. May I be free of overeating.
We can also add any other phrases, affirmations or statements that are positive and loving. We continue with this practice until we begin to gain a sense of love and goodwill towards ourselves. If looking at our bodies is triggering strong emotions, we can focus on a part of our body that we feel more neutral about. If it is still too difficult, we can also use a picture of ourselves as a child. If feelings of anger or frustration come up, we can allow them to be there and not judge ourselves. We can welcome them in a place of acceptance. They will pass.
After we have worked with ourselves in this way, we can also expand this meditation to include others: people we love, the people around us, our community, the world, and even people who have harmed us.
Today, I begin to act as if I matter. I do.
Feast for the Eyes - Valentines Day Collage - Art by Catherine L. Taylor
I make choices every day that support my well-being.
I give myself the validation and encouraging support I have always wanted from others.
I act in ways that make me proud.
I deserve to be free.
My real beauty and worth is based on the goodness inside of me.
I radiate beauty from within.
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I hope you have enjoyed my newsletter. Drop me a line and let me know how you are doing. I love to hear what's working for you and read about your success stories.
Catherine L. Taylor
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