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Questioning the Story
April 30, 2013

Questioning the Story

The most useful piece of learning for the uses of life is to unlearn what is untrue.

While attempting to lose weight, most people lose motivation after a couple of weeks or months. Then they either stop altogether or they begin to engage in self-sabotage and backslide to their old ways. This can be very discouraging but the good news is that it doesn't have to be this way. If we understand what gets in the way of our motivation, we will be able to get back on track very easily.

What trips people up the most in the motivation game are the self-limiting beliefs they hold. As they attempt change, they come up against these beliefs and they cause great anxiety and frustration, and they soon lose steam and then quit or backslide. These beliefs are usually some version of:

  • I must do this perfectly. If I can't, I might as well quit.
  • Mistakes are bad. They mean I'm a failure and a bad person.
  • I don't have what it takes to accomplish my goal.
  • I'm not good enough.
  • I don't deserve to be successful.

If any of these ring true for us, the best thing we can do is to question the truthfulness of these beliefs. Spiritual teacher Byron Katie created a series of four simple questions known as The Work. These questions are very effective at cutting through self-limiting beliefs and getting to the truth underneath our thinking patterns.

Here are the four questions:

Is it true? Can you absolutely know that it’s true? Where’s the evidence that this thought is true? List the evidence. How do you react when you think that thought? Who would you be without that thought?


Byron then has you do a simple turnaround of your belief. For a worksheet on how to do The Work, and to see it in action on video, check out Bryon’s website at

Often we hang on to these beliefs because they are a way of protecting ourselves. They allow us to stay right where we are: safe and sorry. Then we get to be right about ourselves. Life does have a way of giving us what we expect.

We are the authors of the particular story line we are living. If we don't like the story, it's time for a rewrite! Once we let go of the beliefs that are holding us back, we will find that moving forward is pretty effortless because we aren't in conflict with ourselves and sabotaging our success. If we lose steam, which is only natural at times, we will be able to get back on track quickly, instead of engaging in guilt, shame, and self-criticism. 

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Feast for the Eyes - Photo by Catherine L. Taylor

Reflective Questions 

  • What is the story I tell myself about why I can't be successful?    

  • What would my success story look like?

  • What beliefs are keeping me stuck?

  • What payoffs do I get for believing these?

Weekly Affirmations

Every day is a new page in my storybook of life.

I write a new story with the choices and actions I make.   

I create beliefs that support me.

I let go of painful thoughts.

I am a work in progress.

I will never be perfect and there is perfection in this. 

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Many Blessings,


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