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Stop the War!
April 16, 2013

Stop the War!

You cannot devalue the body and value the soul - or value anything else. The isolation of the body sets it into direct conflict with everything else in creation. 
—Wendell Berry

Many of us feel at war with our bodies. In order to lose the weight, we try to dominate and whip the body into submission. This never works. Contempt and control of the body creates a feeling of separation, resulting in a feeling of being at war with ourselves.  Soon, rebellion and self-sabotage ensue and the whole thing backfires on us, leaving us feeling defeated and stuck in a vicious cycle.

Permanent weight loss involves an integrated approach. The mind, body and spirit are interconnected and must work in harmony for there to be a shift in consciousness resulting in permanent change. Instead of control of and contempt for the body, we can choose to lose weight from a foundation of self-love, acceptance and respect.

Instead of trying to force our wills on our body; we acknowledge that our body has its own intelligence, divinity and wisdom. By paying attention to the body, listening to its signals, and developing a respectful partnership with it, our body repays us with its cooperation. And soon we find the war is over.

Permanent weight loss is about choosing a way of being in the world that supports our emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual self. Trying to beat ourselves into submission is self abuse. So we need to learn what the middle ground is: the place of moderation. We need to ask ourselves, "What can I realistically do each day towards taking care of my health?" The answer is usually moderate exercise and eating less, but not in an overly restrictive way (dieting) that leads to bingeing or compulsive overeating. It means honoring our true hunger and appetites and eating when truly hungry (most of the time), and stopping when satisfied, not overly full or stuffed.

Most of us get tripped up because we want to lose weight quickly and see rapid results. But this backfires on us in the long run. If you're reading this page, you probably have a long history of dieting attempts that afterwards resulted in gaining all the weight back and then some. To be successful, we need to take the long view and decide that dieting hasn't ultimately given us what we wanted; we need to make permanent and lasting changes. If we are eating for reasons and needs other than hunger, we need to look at what those needs are and find healthier ways to meet those needs.Dieting never addresses these deeper issues. It's a surface change, and if we want a true lasting change, we must dive deep underneath the surface and work on developing our inner selves.

Most of us want to lose weight because then we will be happier. The truth is we can choose happiness right now. We don't need to lose weight to find peace and happiness. They are always available if we open to them, as they are inner conditions and not dependent on what's happening in our outer world. By letting go of thinking things must be a certain way for us to experience happiness, we open to what is.

By fully embracing ourselves right now in this moment as we are, we will experience peace and happiness. And the good news is because we aren't at war with ourselves, we find it much easier to take good care of ourselves, losing weight in the process as we are carried along with the flow of life, instead of frantically trying to swim upstream.

Far too many of us place way too much importance on our looks. Sure, losing weight and looking better makes us all feel better, but ultimately this is a losing game. We shouldn't put all of our self-esteem eggs in this shakey basket. The body ages, gets sick and injured, and eventually dies. This doesn't mean we should ignore and neglect either. It is the home of our spirit in this lifetime. Let's use it as a vehicle to enjoy our time here on earth but let's not get too attached; it's not the end all, be all. Peace, happiness and true contentment are what we are all ultimately seeking and we can have them right now, in this very moment.

Each one has to find his peace from within. And peace to be real must be unaffected by outside circumstances.
  —Mahatma Gandhi

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Reflective Questions 

  • What conditions do I put on my happiness? I'll be happy when __________?

  • Do I believe I am my body? Or is it simply a vehicle for my inner self or spirit?

  • How do I maintain other vehicles I own? Do I take better care of them than my body or do I neglect them?

  • In what ways do I try to dominate or whip my body into submission? Has this helped or hindered me?

Weekly Affirmations

My body is the temple of my spirit. 

If I want peace, I must practice being peace.

I take loving care of my body.

My body wants to serve and help me.

My body is with me through thick and thin.

My body deserves my care and attention.

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